Some people say "I have wanted to commit suicide", "I can't believe it" or "I don't understand", but people who say "I don't understand" or "I don't understand" are people in the first place. I'm not even trying to understand my feelings, so I should just think of it as "a poor person who doesn't understand people's hearts" and "a light-hearted person who can judge things only by his own values". ..
That's why I stopped opening my heart to that person and only had a clerical relationship.
Since the workplace was the same and the number of people was small, I couldn't work regardless of it, so I was reluctant to have a minimum conversation.
But maybe I didn't like it, I was told to me from the top that I looked down on people as if they were stupid, and that I totally denied humanity, and that was every day. Then, I only felt distrust and disgust toward that person, but I didn't want to get involved, so I was doing it properly, but when I think about it now, it becomes excessive stress and depression. I think that the illness has recurred and it has become terrible.
After all, I stopped trying to escape from the workplace, but if I quit, should I have complained or rebelled against that person? I may wonder, but as a result, I think I have managed to recover from the worst recurrence of depression by leaving the workplace.
It took more than a year, but I think I should have recovered early. Even now, I sometimes remember and sometimes have depressive symptoms.
Perhaps the characteristics of people with depression are that they tend to "endure" and "accumulate stress in themselves."
When I say something like this, I think there are people who say, "Then you have to put up with it," but that means "I don't try to understand people's hearts."
I'm sure you wouldn't think about "why do you endure it?" I wonder if I can think of things only from my own point of view, such as "I wouldn't put up with it." I think.
I think it's a "selfish personality".
People with such characteristics tend to look down on others as "people who do not understand their feelings".
I imagine that people who don't really understand "my feelings" and people who don't get what they want are grouped together as "people who don't understand the feelings of people (me)".
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Characteristics of people who do not understand their feelings
It seems that there are the following psychology of people who do not understand the feelings of such people.
1. Purely not interested in the opinions of the other party
It is often said that modern people are "indifferent", but I feel that it is a little different, and I think they are "only interested in themselves."
It is thought that it is a psychology that "everyone must be like this because I am like this" without recognizing the situation of others and the feelings in that situation.
Well, it can be called "selfish".
2. I take the care and kindness of people as "natural"
"People who don't understand people's feelings" who have absolute values are naturally the same values as the other person, so they don't take care and kindness as a matter of course. Is not it.
Of course, the kindness and kindness I received from people is natural, but I say "thank you" and other words of gratitude, but in reality I don't feel much gratitude.
On the other hand, if you don't receive the attention and kindness in the situation you envision, you will get angry and attack, so you say that the quality is poor.
It's a selfish thought circuit, so it can't be helped.
3. Speak or act without thinking
Since I am an absolutely justice "person who does not understand the feelings of others", I think that everything I do is correct, so I predict the results of my remarks and actions and how I feel about what the other person thinks by their words and actions. It seems that he is acting without thinking too much about it.
You can leave it to your emotions and yell at you without thinking.
If a person wants to make a mistake, he is an unthinking person who decides that the person who made the mistake is evil just because he would never make such a mistake.
You can't think of what the cause of the mistake is, "Is the work busy enough to make a mistake?" Or "Is it so mentally painful?", Probably.
There is a possibility that such a person is lurking anywhere in a human relationship.
Well, I don't think it's offensive, but on the contrary, I think it's the worst compatibility with people who are prone to depression, such as "to endure" or "to be too considerate of people's emotions."
I have a pretty special workplace you've met such a person, depression because there was no escape because it was the environment that forced to take just communication because you were working in all three employees in a small rental office recurrence I have done it, but I don't think that is the case in a general workplace, so if you come across such a person and are in trouble, consult with your boss or president and relocate so that you do not get involved with that person. I think it's better to have them do it.
For people with a weak mental illness and prone to depression, such behavior can be difficult and difficult, but it is late after depression. If you become depressed, it will be more difficult for you to take such actions, and if you continue to put up with it, your depression will only get worse, so I think you have the courage, but please do your best and consult with your boss or president.
It doesn't matter if the expression is a little overstated. Even if it isn't, people with weak mentality tend to have a modest personality, so it tends to be a modest expression, so I think "maybe overstated" is just right.
You don't have to force yourself to work with that person
It's not worth working in a workplace where you can do your best and do nothing.
Escape the company before your life ends there.
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