When I'm depressed, I often wonder, "Why do I have to have such a hard time?" "Others look happy, but what about it?"
I tend to underestimate myself compared to others and get stuck in a negative thinking loop with the feeling that "I'm such a negative person."
However, when I took a psychiatric prescription and took a deep breath while taking a deep breath, I changed my mind and thought, "I understand the feeling of thinking about that, but I don't have to be so depressed." I also get used to it.
Thinking calmly, even though what's happening to me isn't such a tragic, desperate and ridiculous thing, it's almost as desperate in my head as the end of the world. I notice that it was becoming.
However, when you're depressed to the bottom of the negative, you can't look at yourself objectively and calmly and come up to the point where you say "OK!", I understand.
I'm also worried that this despair will last forever.
I think it is inevitable that people who have experienced depression and have weakened their brains and mental health, or who have such a tendency, will fall into a negative thinking loop.
Just as people who are naturally weak or allergic are more likely to get sick, people who are mentally weak are more likely to be mentally depressed, so it reopens with the awareness that "I am such an illness". I think that there is no choice but to deal with illness well.
Then what should I do? I mean, when I feel "I'm getting weaker mentally" and "If I leave it as it is, I'll fall to the bottom of despair again", take a medicine, take a deep breath, and do nothing. I am practicing some "change of mind" methods as a preventive measure, while being vague.
By doing so, the state of mental depression is stopped at some point, and it is avoided that it falls to the bottom.
I don't know if everyone can deal with depression and depressive symptoms in the same way as they do, but I would like to introduce it as a reference.
"Happy person" or "unhappy person" changes depending on the way of thinking
I think that people tend to underestimate themselves when they have depressive symptoms or tend to be depressed.
When I think about why I think "I'm not good", "Everyone is working hard and living, but I am ..." or "Other people are living comfortably and happily." However, I'm just thinking negatively ... ", and I think I basically look down on myself compared to others.
However, when I'm depressed, I think that the lawn next to me is blue, and I compare it to myself by looking at the good points of people who I envy and others.
In reality, there are many people who are suffering from depression, depressive symptoms, negative thoughts, and negative thoughts like you, so negative people are by no means a minority, and tens of thousands of people commit suicide annually. I think it is natural to think that there are many people who are suffering even if they do not commit suicide.
On the other hand, from my point of view, there are many "happy people", so what is the difference between "happy people" and "unhappy people"? I will think about it.
Some may be "people who seem to enjoy life even if they are full of debt", some may be "rich but misanthropic and sad", some may be "people who live positively even with disabilities or intractable diseases", and "nothing is inconvenient". There are people who are not happy but unfortunate in their lives, so there are people in various situations, but I think it is natural to think that there are people who are happy and people who are unhappy in any situation.
With that in mind, I think the difference between "happy people" and "unhappy people" is the "difference in thinking" such as "how to perceive that life."
So I think there is a cause for me to have depressive symptoms and tend to be depressed now, but I think it can be said that it is not impossible to live positively as such.
In other words, depending on the way of thinking, people can be happy or unhappy.
Forgive yourself as you forgive others
Isn't it "strict to yourself and sweet to others"? I have
For example, in my case, "I have to be 5 minutes before the meeting time, so I will arrive at the meeting place 10 minutes before that, and I will leave the house 1 hour before because I do not know what is on the way." I impose tasks with such a momentum that I cannot afford to be late for the meeting, but even if the other party does not come late for the meeting, I am very tolerant, saying, "I wonder if something happened."
I don't think that the harsh aspects of yourself, such as "you have to keep your promise," "you must not be late," and "you have to accomplish what you have decided," are not bad at all. However, for people with depressive symptoms and prone to depression, the pressure becomes stressful and worsens the depressive symptoms, and if it is not achieved, it is not a good idea to further despise yourself.
I think that there is also a desire to "be a decent self from the perspective of others." There is also the feeling that I feel stressed by being too concerned about the "eyes of others", such as not wanting to be considered a sloppy person who is late for time.
But do you look down on him as "he's a bad guy who can't keep time" just because someone else is late? That's not the case. In other words, I tend to overestimate others and underestimate myself.
So, for example, if you meet yourself and you are late for the meeting, the other person will forgive you for being late.
If you think so, you can say that you can forgive yourself, so if you are kinder and sweeter to yourself and accept and accept yourself, even if you think that you can't do it or you're useless, you can't help it because you're ill. I try to think with the feeling that I will forgive you.
The future will not be what you want
Ten years ago, I imagined something like a dream like "I want to get rich and live a gorgeous life", but in reality, "I think I'm living happily and healthy with my family." I was thinking.
Well, in reality, I became depressed, and in a sense, I had the most turbulent life development in my history, and the future was completely different from the one I envisioned 10 years ago.
So, if you think calmly, the desperate future that you imagine when you are falling into a loop of negative thinking and rumination thinking, "I will continue until such a painful life dies", is an extreme thought, so that is Isn't it unlikely that it will actually happen? I'm thinking about it.
Imagine the worst case, and the situation was that "depression worsened and I couldn't work, I lost my income and couldn't eat, but I couldn't work, so I had to die." So what do you do? Imagine that, this is my case, but I thought, "Then I should die at worst," and reopened, so I gave up on getting a job and tried freelance! It became. I started by groping with no plan at all, but unexpectedly I managed to avoid the worst case I imagined.
To change from this worst situation to a good life now, we have to take some different action.
But that doesn't always improve your life, and it could make things worse, scary, isn't it? It's hard to take a step forward.
But in the worst case, I thought "I should die", so even if I became freelance and failed, I might have felt that the worst situation was within my expectations.
in conclusion
Well, like this, I think about other things, but it depends on the troubles at that time and the cause of depression, so it is a case by case.
As I wrote at the beginning, I don't know if everyone can deal with depression and symptoms of depression in the same way as I do, but in my case it's a reference. I hope it will be.
In other past articles, I will introduce some articles that may help prevent depression, so please read them if you like.