Fortunately, I have a wife and children, and I am very grateful that they support such a bad father, but just having a wife or lover can save me from depression.
Partners are important in life .
By the way, I think that many people who are prone to depression have a negative personality, but "negative and introverted people" have only a negative image, why?
Don't you think that even in love, "positive and diplomatic people" are popular, and negatives cannot win?
Then, the reason why you can't win is that you can't win because you fight in a situation where positives are advantageous. Isn't a joint party or a pick-up a ring of people who are completely positive? Negative people have no chance of winning.
Then what should I do? It's a story, but negative people have a success route for negative people. There are situations where negative people have an advantage .
In the first place, both negative and positive people have different personalities, but there is no difference in their work ability, motor ability, memory ability, learning ability, reflexes, etc. as human beings.
However, the fact that positive people seem to be more capable is conspicuous because "positive people appeal to themselves who can do it." On the other hand, negative people are humble and hate to brag or appeal, so the positive thinking that I love seems to be more brilliant, which is the illusion of Shuzo Matsuoka. It's an illusion.
Negative and positive have different laws of success
Negative people are eager to prepare for the worst case, so they will lead to success by taking actions such as "less mistakes" and "making detailed plans".
On the contrary, positive people are not afraid of risk and go crazy and lead to success by the number of trials.
Since positive and negative people have different routes to success, it is generally thought that the positive success route is the correct route, so the same success route as the negative but positive people I just tried to go and failed and became negative again, saying "I can't do it myself".
As I said earlier, both negative and positive people have the same abilities . So it's the same in romance, where positive people fail and negative people succeed.
Even if a positive person fails, he / she can go on to the next one, so it is easy to succeed in a short period of time, but even a negative person should succeed with the same probability if the same number of trials is repeated.
Rather, positive people do not learn from failure by "hit a few hits", so the accuracy is always the same, but negative people learn from failure and correct the next action to improve accuracy, so only the probability is positive person It should be higher.
Favorable romance of negative people
Therefore, even for romance, a negative person should act with a detailed plan that assumes mistakes and worst cases, and learn from failures and act to increase the probability of success.
For example, the success law of a person who is negative is to research the other person's tastes and hobbies, make a response list of conversations, study psychology, deepen relationships and build relationships of trust. It's a favorable romance.
Don't listen to the devil's whisper, "No, if you have time to think about it, you should call out hard!" Don't be fooled by the laws of success of positive people. A love strategy that takes advantage of negative characteristics should have a higher absolute success rate!
Even if it doesn't work, it is one of the strengths of a negative person to reflect on "why it didn't work" and learn from it to grow.
Strengths of people with negative anxiety
Negative people are "anxious", so sometimes they are not good at romance. But for negative people, "anxiety" is a great strength.
So replace "because of anxiety" with action
"Prepare because of
anxiety " "Simulate because of
anxiety " "Investigate because of
anxiety " "Practice because of anxiety"
Feel "anxiety" and prepare.
In addition, there is research data that negative people lose their ability when they are praised. On the other hand, if you feel anxious, your ability will improve, that is, if you feel negative emotions or pressure, you will be able to perform well when you meet a destined person.
Anxiety, tension, and pressure are allies for negative people, so it is better not to look away or blame yourself for not being positive, but rather to act as a chance to take action, a signal to take action. ..
That said, here are three articles that might be useful for those who still want to get rid of the negatives.
If you like, please read it together.