I'm doing my best, but it's not rewarding, and when I realized that I was making a wasteful effort, my heart broke and I became depressed.
So, let's make the right effort so as not to hurt our mentality.
Mindset to work properly
I think you've heard of a " growth mindset " with the idea that you can do it (if you don't know, click the link to buy a book), but the mindset also has 2 It seems that there are different types, "rigid mindset" and "flexible mindset" .
A rigid mindset is a mindset that determines your potential, such as "I can't help because my abilities are fixed" or "I can't do it, I'm not good at it" .
Supple mind set and is, "go up if the my ability Kitaere and!" "I can do it and!", Such as that their potential can be seen bare the mind set.
That being said, the point is that the state of these two mindsets is switched depending on your mental state or something.
It seems that the feelings of "you can do it" and "you can't do it" are changing. It feels like a hell. If you ask me, there are times when I feel that way.
In other words, it is important to pay close attention to "which mindset you are in" and to recognize whether you are a supple mindset or a rigid mindset .
So, if you think, "I'm in a rigid mindset right now," review your efforts and check if you're making the right effort.
So what kind of effort is a rewarding effort?
1. Continuous effort
Even if you say effort, you have a high ideal of "becoming the best in the world!", And even if you try to continue making efforts with high hurdles, you will be frustrated, which is a common pattern.
In other words, make an effort to continue without overdoing it every day with your own abilities .
That way, you'll be able to keep producing a certain level of performance, and let's find a way to keep trying efficiently so that we can continue.
2. Correct strategy
Strategically check how you can reach your goal in the shortest time and how you can confirm that you are moving toward your goal correctly, and act while checking whether the period, time, and method of effort are correct. That's right.
For example, if you try to stop drinking, you will be frustrated even if you try to stop suddenly, so let's reduce it little by little, then let's reduce it while checking if you can put up with about one glass of wine in this week. ..
Isn't it easier to succeed if you do what you can do in order, dividing the period and doing it in small steps? It is good to make a strategy like this.
Also, check the progress, and if it's impossible, try lowering the hurdle, or if you can go, try raising the hurdle.
This is of utmost importance, and efforts without a strategy can easily be wasted .
3. Effective use of resources
You should make an effort by making effective use of resources such as your talents and skills. Rather than starting from scratch what you haven't done at all, if you can apply what you are good at, use it to find the shortest route and work hard.
Even if you make an effort like "I have no piano experience but want to be able to play", rather than starting with a boring fingering exercise while looking at a difficult classical textbook, you can buy a score with a simple arrangement of your favorite song that you know well and do it yourself. It seems that those who practice happily will continue for a long time.
The idea is that by using your own resources, "favorite songs that you know well," you can practice efficiently without having to memorize the songs first.
If you're trying hard but it doesn't work, you don't have enough strategy
It's good to be confident that you can do it if you are positive and positive, but it has the opposite effect and you have a rigid mindset that you can do it, so effective efforts and strategic I haven't made much effort.
It may be that only the feelings go forward and psychologically it is close to the state of "manic", or there may be a risk of turning into "depression". Hoes Hoes Hoes.
Even if you can do it, it's important to have a mindset that "you can do it (effectively)!"
In addition, it seems that the correct strategic effort can be made by evaluating the process, that is, the content of one's efforts, rather than the outcome or achievement of the goal.
Is it the so-called "turning PDCA"? By checking and improving "whether this effort is leading to growth or moving forward" and confirming the results, a good method can be found. Then make it a habit and make an effort to continue.
I think some people are writing blogs, but to continue, it's best to look at the access analysis and analyze it.
If the number of accesses increases, it will be motivating, and if it does not increase, we will check things like "how to increase", "characteristics of pages with many accesses", and "what kind of articles are pages with long stays".
Based on that, if you try to rewrite the article, imitate how to write an article of your favorite popular blog, analyze the access analysis again, and go through the cycle, it will continue. You can make an effort.
In fact, I continue to write blogs like that, and I update this article every day for about a month.
That's why I'm trying to make an effort to be rewarded and continue to make efforts correctly so as not to break my heart, but on the contrary, I will introduce the story that it is okay if you burn too much passion . If you like, please read it together.